Tips for breaking up with someone
There are many ways to break up, some more gentle than others.
Break up in person, by SMS, by voice message or worse, or by ghosting... With the development of new technologies, especially social networks, it is now possible to leave someone in a click. If you are reading this article, it is that you respect your partner a little to leave him cowardly.
If you are sure that you have weighed the pros and cons sufficiently and have decided to leave, then follow our advice.
How to break up with your partner gently
The most important thing to remember is surely not to end up in a war with your partner. Conflict is useless and it is better to end on good terms. Moreover, if you need to see the person again for X reason afterwards, you might as well bury the hatchet already.
First, choose a face-to-face breakup. Avoid networking, ghosting or even breaking up by text message. These are cowardly and you will look like the bad guy or gal. If you are in a long distance relationship, it all depends. If you have a long commute or don't plan to see the person soon, call them to end the relationship. Again, forget texting and other methods!
Secondly, forget about the so-called "boilerplate" phrases: "you're too good for me", "I don't deserve you", it's not your fault but it's me"... Be honest with the person.
Third, it's important that you put your ego aside, even during a breakup. You've been through something with someone you probably loved, so stay correct to the end. Don't be afraid to mention the issues that caused this decision to be made, problems on both sides. It is important to admit that you are wrong in the relationship because you should know that a separation is rarely if ever the fault of one person but of both parties.
Also, avoid hurtful phrases and weigh your words. Certain words or phrases can deeply hurt your partner and leave a lasting impression on future relationships. Cosmopolitan has made an article about these phrases to think about for the breakup, it can complete our remarks.
To heal the wounds, to think the words. ~ Philippe Aalberg
Do it right
It is important to limit the damage and especially to be honest with the person you are leaving. Don't lie about the reason, as this may be the trigger for them to leave. Although the news is difficult to hear, having a reason to end a relationship simply helps them move on.
It is best to say things as honestly as possible. If the person needs to understand, it is worth expressing the reasons. For the person who is going to express them, it is important to do so with respect and kindness, avoiding blaming the other person.
A breakup is never easy, but it is often necessary. Do things right, avoid breaking up on his birthday, during the holidays, on Valentine's Day, on your 3rd birthday...
It doesn't matter what your situation is, whether you live with the person, have pets in common with them, are married... all factors that could deter you from breaking up. Continuing to endure the situation is not the solution, it is better to stop all suffering and separate. But remember to stay on good terms for everyone's sake. If you get along with your soon-to-be ex cordially, you'll have less trouble finding compromises for the future.
See also : Reasons for a breakup 💔